I am convinced that lasting and fulfilling relationships don’t happen by accident. It takes purposeful planning and learning.
Marriage is like a fishing net. Each day fishermen use their nets to catch fish and sell them at the market.
One fisherman takes his fish from the net everyday but lets debris from the ocean accumulate in the fishing net. Eventually so much debris is caught in the net that he can hardly cast the net out of the boat, and when he does, its almost impossible to retrieve because of the unneeded weight of the debris. Finally, in a fit of anger, he cuts the net loose and goes home without it. He is unable to catch and sell fish again until he buys another net.
Another fisherman removes debris every time he retrieves the net with the fish he caught. So each time he casts his net, it's clean and ready to catch more fish.
As a result, he catches and sells enough fish to support himself and his family.
Fish,in this parable, represents emotional needs met in the marriage while the pieces of debris stand for Love-busters or habits that cause unhappiness.
Bad marriages are like the first fisherman's net: full of debris. Selfish demands, disrespectful judgements, angry outbursts, annoying habits, dishonesty, and independent behaviour accumulate over time. The burden of the unhappiness they cause ruins a couple's willingness and ability to meet each other's emotional needs. Eventually the marriage supplies no benefits to either spouse and ends in divorce or emotional separation.
Good marriages are like the second fisherman's net. Love-busters are eliminated as soon as they appear, making it easy for spouses to meet each other's emotional needs. Love is sustained because the Love-busters are deliberately noticed, removed and tossed overboard.
So what sort of a fisherman are you hoping to be in this New Year?!
Courtesy - Couplesbreakfast
Marriage is like a fishing net. Each day fishermen use their nets to catch fish and sell them at the market.
One fisherman takes his fish from the net everyday but lets debris from the ocean accumulate in the fishing net. Eventually so much debris is caught in the net that he can hardly cast the net out of the boat, and when he does, its almost impossible to retrieve because of the unneeded weight of the debris. Finally, in a fit of anger, he cuts the net loose and goes home without it. He is unable to catch and sell fish again until he buys another net.
Another fisherman removes debris every time he retrieves the net with the fish he caught. So each time he casts his net, it's clean and ready to catch more fish.
As a result, he catches and sells enough fish to support himself and his family.
Fish,in this parable, represents emotional needs met in the marriage while the pieces of debris stand for Love-busters or habits that cause unhappiness.
Bad marriages are like the first fisherman's net: full of debris. Selfish demands, disrespectful judgements, angry outbursts, annoying habits, dishonesty, and independent behaviour accumulate over time. The burden of the unhappiness they cause ruins a couple's willingness and ability to meet each other's emotional needs. Eventually the marriage supplies no benefits to either spouse and ends in divorce or emotional separation.
Good marriages are like the second fisherman's net. Love-busters are eliminated as soon as they appear, making it easy for spouses to meet each other's emotional needs. Love is sustained because the Love-busters are deliberately noticed, removed and tossed overboard.
So what sort of a fisherman are you hoping to be in this New Year?!
Courtesy - Couplesbreakfast
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