You've Got Mail- Who Should I Marry?

Dear African Sweethearts,

I am dating a guy that I no longer have feeling for, I also don't like our sex life and am not attracted to him. I don't miss him or feel his absence, he could b gone for 2 months and I wont b bothered. Though he satisfies with me wateva I need financially, he is so luving, caring n gentle. In fact he is a gentle man to the core and he is only 30 yrs.

While the 2nd guy is this outgoing swagalicious fellow. He loves me I know, even though he does not lavish money on me like the first guy does. am attracted to him in all ways. i miss his presence and I luv his company too. and he is 33yrs.

My headache is this; how will the first guy feel? his family members too especially his mum dat I even visited in the village once. how will my family members feel and take it? what will people say. these are the only two guys in my life for now. 

Or should I just let the two of them go and pray I find love somewhere else. am not really in a rush to get married now, I can wait for the first guy to really achieve what he wants to achieve but the thing is I don't have feeling for him any more. and I don't wanna go on pretending cos it might lead to adultery when we eventually get married and dats the last thing I wanna do when am married.

Please is it not better I go with someone I love as much as he loves me?

Thank you for your anticipated response. God bless you as you help me outta this my headaches dat gives me sleepless nights